Tuning out the noise: a story about perspective
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A young man was given an old radio by a friend. The friend no longer wanted it, warning that if the young man didn’t take it, it was headed for the trash. Being someone who enjoyed a bargain, the young man took it home, cleaned the wooden frame, polished it, and excitedly turned it on. But after much fiddling and searching, he found that the radio could only tune into one station—NGTV FM. No matter how hard he tried—turning the dials, shaking the radio, repositioning it—he couldn’t find any other stations.
Frustrated but determined, he decided to listen anyway. Over time, the station’s broadcasts became a regular part of his routine, and eventually, the highlight of his day. He started discussing the commentaries with his friends, trying to convince them to tune in too. But his friends didn’t share his enthusiasm. When they disagreed with his opinions, the young man grew defensive and insistent. Eventually, they got tired of his constant negativity. When they saw him coming, they’d make excuses or walk the other way.
Months passed, and by chance, the young man bumped into the original owner of the radio. “You know,” the young man said, “I could only get that one station—NGTV FM. No matter what I tried, I couldn’t find anything else.” His friend smiled knowingly. “So, what did you do about it?” “At first, I didn’t like it,” the young man admitted, “but I got used to it. I even started enjoying it, though none of my friends wanted to listen to it with me.” “That’s exactly why I gave it away,” the friend said. “The more I listened, the more I noticed that the station only focused on negativity—constantly criticizing, complaining, and condemning. It made me feel miserable. Eventually, I realized something had to change, and that change had to start with me.” “So, you gave the radio to me?” asked the young man. “Yes. I was hoping you’d discover a different station—something better. But I guess not.” “No,” the young man sighed. “And honestly, I’m tired of listening to that one voice. I need something fresh—something positive.”
What Station Are You Tuning In To?
Does this story sound familiar? We all know people who seem to thrive on negativity—dragging others down to feel validated. They insist on broadcasting their opinions, even when it alienates those around them. If we let them, their negativity can influence us, drawing us into their world.
Some people wake up each day wondering, “Who can I pull down with me today?” If we’re not careful, we can become their next project. And the harder we resist, the more determined they become. But giving in isn’t the answer—standing firm is.
Action Points for Tuning in to Positivity
- Define Your Values: Write down what you believe and who you want to be. Stick to that vision.
- Guard Your Mind: Pay attention to the voices you allow into your life—focus on what’s good and uplifting.
- Spread Positivity: Live in a way that inspires others. Positivity is contagious, so let your attitude be infectious in the best way.
When we live intentionally and align with our values, we attract people who want to follow our example. This week, take stock of the “stations” you’ve been tuning into. Choose voices that uplift, inspire, and encourage you to be your best self.
Tune in to positivity, and make this your best week ever!
Make an Impact.
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Paul Kearley is a professional leadership, communications and sales coach for businesspeople who are taking command of their career and making an impact. He has worked as a business coach and trainer, Virtual Trainer, and speaker since 1985.
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